Avoid Midlife Crisis Ladies
How To Avoid Midlife Crisis, Ladies
We tend to associate the term midlife crisis with men and there are a clear set of signs that we often relate to that period of their lives. The stereotypical signs include trading in a spouse for a younger version, buying a sports car, and dressing a few decades too young. What does a midlife crisis look like for women, though, and how can it be avoided?
What Midlife Crisis Looks Like
• You’re making rash decisions
• You’re rethinking everything in your life
• Sleep is out the window
• You feel like you’re losing your mind
• You feel restless
• You feel as though you’ve experienced a loss
• Your appearance suddenly matters a great deal to you
• Or the very opposite
• You feel old and think of yourself as being old
• You believe the best is behind you
• The future looks grim
There are a variety of reasons why you may be feeling this way – turning 40 has long been considered a big change and it is the onset of many bodily changes in women. It’s hardly the end of your life, though, and there are plenty of things to look forward to. Just remember, at the end of every chapter there is a new one just beginning.
How To Avoid Midlife Crisis
Consider why you may be suddenly re-evaluating your life? In the days before women were free to pursue the career of their dreams. They would reach 40 and look back with disappointment on what they had achieved because 40 signaled the end of having children in the home and a sudden loss as to what to do with themselves.
That’s wasn’t a mid-life crisis, so much as it was someone searching for their own identity. Yet, now women are doing it all and 40 can be the point at which they look back and think, yeah, I’ve done a lot… but I’m not where I thought I’d be.
Who doesn’t go into their career headfirst telling themselves they’re going to be the CEO of a major company?
It can hurt when you feel as though you haven’t achieved as much as you wanted to and reaching 40 seems like an end to those types of dreams. Spoiler alert: they’re not, the retirement age is much higher than it used to.
Regardless of that, though, you still have so much more to discover and explore about yourself and about life.
Instead of closing yourself off reach out to friends who have been through this or are going through it and explore the issue together. Let’s be honest, this isn’t about recovering your now lost youth. It’s all about finding your greatness and applying it to life.
Sit down with your friends and ask yourselves a few questions that can help you sort your self-doubt out of the equation.
• What do I believe I should have achieved by this stage of my life?
• What fulfilling activity can I shift my focus to?
• What does my life need more of?
• What parts of me have I put aside for too long that I need to explore?
• How can I solidify my personal commitment to making my life happy?
Don’t allow your self-doubt to spiral into a midlife crisis. You are good enough and just because you may not have achieved everything that you expected to doesn’t mean you still can’t. The purpose of life is to be happy and to lead a life that is fulfilling and feels significant to you. It’s okay if you need to be reminded of that from time to time.
The best truly is yet to come.